What Did Jesus Say about Divorce?
Recently, the Western world has focused its attention on the subject of same-sex marriage, with the issue of divorce receiving less attention. Despite this, Christians and non-Christians alike continue to battle with the decision to divorce as well as the process of considering divorce. This is an area where we require clear direction. Despite the fact that the Bible’s teaching on divorce is extensive, we’ll limit our attention in this brief post to one crucial component of Jesus’ teaching from Mark 10:1–12—the prerequisites for divorcing a spouse.
Later, in private, the disciples requested Jesus to elaborate on His response (10:10).
He emphasized unequivocally that marriage is to be a long-term commitment between a man and a single woman.
The permanency of the marriage relationship was declared (and continues to be upheld) by Jesus.
- What are the conditions in question?
- The Greek term that Jesus used to describe “immorality” is the same one that we use to describe modern-day wordpornography.
- Porne is the source of the word “prostitute.” The wordmolxeia, which is used particularly for adultery in Matthew 19, might have been used by Jesus, but He selected a more general phrase instead.
- Porneia is deemed immorality in any scenario, though.
- As a result, some researchers use the term in a broad sense and apply it to things like homosexuality, bestiality, incest, and other similar behaviors.
- He was not the one who ordered it.
- In such marriages, the ultimate objective is always and everywhere reconciliation.
I’m aware of one example when this is the case.
He just stayed to watch for a minute or two before turning the television off, feeling terrible and humiliated.
Finally, he came clean to his wife about what he had been up to.
His wife was adamant in her refusal to forgive him for that solitary misstep.
And, for a small period of time, she was able to do this.
What the man did in his hotel room was wrong, and I don’t condone it.
Divorce is a human decision, not something dictated by God.
It’s all over now!
A mood of “How can we work through this terrible rupture in our relationship?” pervades the process of seeking reconciliation.
To be sure, it is a severe, sad, and emotionally devastating act of disobedience and betrayal on the part of the victim.
In the middle of terrible betrayal, and you fear your marriage is on the verge of dissolution, please consider the difficult work of reconciliation before responding with the kneejerk reaction: “I’ve got grounds for a divorce, and I’m not stopping until I have it!” Most of the time, filing those documents will simply result in one heartbreak being replaced by another that is considerably more painful.
Divorce and Remarriage: According to Jesus, by Charles R. Swindoll, is adapted (Plano, Tex: IFL Publishing House, 2013). Charles R. Swindoll, Inc. retains ownership of the copyright. All intellectual property rights are reserved throughout the world.
About the author
For more than 40 years, Pastor Chuck Swindoll has dedicated his life to the accurate, practical teaching and implementation of God’s Word. Chuck has served as the senior pastor-teacher at Stonebriar Community Church in Frisco, Texas, since 1998, but his reach goes well beyond the confines of the church’s walls and into the community. Insight for Living has been a major program in Christian broadcasting since 1979, and it airs all around the world. In his roles as president of Dallas Theological Seminary and as chancellor of the seminary, Chuck has assisted in the preparation and equipping a new generation of ministers.
What did Jesus really say about marriage and divorce?
Despite the fact that many people look to the Bible for direction on moral issues, like as marriage and divorce, ProfessorLuke Timothy Johnson believes that focusing on what is “permissible” in the Bible may be foolish. Emory University’s Robert W. Woodruff Professor of New Testament and Christian Origins at the Candler School of Theology and a Senior Fellow at the Center for the Study of Law and Religion advises students not to use the text to justify their current political or religious beliefs (CSLR).
McDonald Lecture in Christianity and Law series was part of CSLR’s “When Law and Religion Meet” lecture series on religion and law.
It is possible to find “what is demanded of us” in two chapters of Matthew’s gospel that deal with Jesus’s instructions on marriage and divorce, according to Johnson.
According to the first chapter of Matthew, Jesus remarked: “It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, save on the grounds of porneia (sexual immorality), makes her an adulteress; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.'” In the second chapter, Matthew records Jesus as saying: (Matthew 5:31-32; Mark 5:31-32; Luke 5:31-32.) In the second, the Pharisees confront Jesus with the question: “Is it permissible for a man to separate from his wife for any reason?” Because of their “hardness of heart,” Jesus responds by citing the sequence of creation recorded in Genesis and concludes that man and woman are not two but one (Mark 10:8), as well as the fact that what God has united humans should not be divided (10:10).
- “Jesus does not approve of divorce,” he adds.
- It is also stated in Matthew that the disciples tell Jesus that if a husband and wife are in this circumstance that they should avoid getting married.
- “The one who is capable of accepting this should accept it.” In his book Matthew’s Characterization of Jesus, Johnson argues that it must be interpreted in terms of the symbolism connected with Torah in the formative Judaism that existed at the time of the Gospel.
- According to this perspective, Jesus is the messianic interpreter of the Torah, if not the live embodiment of it.
Giving Up on Oneself and One’s Family As a result, when a wealthy young man approaches Jesus for guidance on how to achieve everlasting life, Jesus advises him to follow the six commandments: do not kill, commit adultery, steal, or give false testimony; honor one’s father and mother; and love one’s neighbor as oneself.
- According to Johnson, when Jesus says, ‘If you want be perfect, go sell all you possess and give it to the poor, and you will have riches in heaven,’ he is unhappy and turns away from Jesus.
- So, how does this aim contribute to the preservation of marriage, loyalty, and marital accountability?
- “By being with someone else, the spouse who is sexually immoral has already severed the links of one flesh,” says the author.
- Is this complete and total sacrifice and devotion to Jesus intended for everybody and everyone?
- “Many people are called, but only a few are selected.
- God’s way of life Perhaps the problem is that we take marriage too seriously, in a “absolute rather than relative” manner, according to Johnson.
- “The ties of marriage are no longer in effect.
- It has become more difficult for us to comprehend what life with God can be like.
- We go to the stars by wading through muck.
The concept of eternal life was significant back then. It doesn’t really matter what such phrases signify to us. “It’s a shame, really.”
Up next: Michael J. Perry discusses “Religious Freedom, Same-Sex Marriage and the Catholic Church” March 21, 12:30 at Emory Law.
Despite the fact that many people turn to the Bible for direction on moral issues, like as marriage and divorce, ProfessorLuke Timothy Johnson believes that focusing on what is “permissible” in the Bible is a mistake. Emory University’s Robert W. Woodruff Professor of New Testament and Christian Origins at the Candler School of Theology and a Senior Fellow at the Center for the Study of Law and Religion advises readers not to study the text in order to justify current political or religious beliefs (CSLR).
McDonald Lecture on Christianity & Law at Emory University School of Law.
Johnson points to two passages in Matthew’s gospel that deal with Jesus’ instructions on marriage and divorce as examples of “what is demanded of us.” Johnson describes these passages as having garnered “obsessive attention.” According to the first chapter of Matthew, Jesus remarked, “It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, save on the grounds of porneia (sexual immorality), makes her an adulteress; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.’ In Matthew 5:31-32, Jesus says, “I am the Son of Man, and you are the Saviour of the world.” In the second, the Pharisees confront Jesus with the question: “Is it permissible for a man to separate from his wife without a justification?” And Jesus responds by attributing the directive to their “hardness of heart” (Mark 10:5) and drawing attention to the sequence of creation given in Genesis, concluding that man and woman are not two but one (10:8), and that what God has combined people should not be divided (10:9).
- “Jesus does not approve of divorce,” he adds.
- It is also stated in Matthew that the disciples tell Jesus that if a husband and wife are in this circumstance then they should avoid marrying.
- In other words, there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others—and there are others who choose to live their lives as eunuchs in order to advance the kingdom of heaven.
- From Jesus’ virgin birth through his betrayal by Judas, Matthew’s literary style explains to the reader why events occurred one by one.
As Johnson points out, “If Jesus is described in John’s gospel as the Word made flesh, it is reasonable to infer that in Matthew’s gospel, Jesus is described as the Torah made flesh.” Sacrificing one’s own interests and those of one’s family Accordingly, when a wealthy young man approaches Jesus for guidance on how to earn everlasting life, Jesus advises him to follow six commandments: do not kill, commit adultery, steal, or give false testimony; honor one’s parents; and love one’s neighbor as himself.
When the guy responds that he has actually lived in this manner, he asks once again, “What is it that he is missing?” According to Johnson, when Jesus says, ‘If you want be perfect, go sell all you own and give it to the poor, and you will have riches in heaven,’ he is saddened and withdraws his attention from Jesus.
- A person’s home, belongings, and family are all included in this definition.
- As a result, Johnson advises that we look again at Matthew’s description of divorce, adultery, and “hardness of heart,” which prevents man and woman from being one body as God intended.
- As Johnson points out, this isn’t necessarily the case.
- ” You cannot enter the kingdom of heaven as you are—the requirements are strict, and there are dangers.” Weddings are a diversion in this circumstance because they are so ordinary.
- Some argue that the problem is that people take marriage too seriously, in a “absolute rather than relative” approach, according to Johnson.
- It is no longer necessary to adhere to the bonds of marriage.
It has the effect of increasing Jesus’ unique authority, according to Johnson: “It transforms Jesus into a rigorous and demanding presence, beyond legal and domestic tranquillity, into the risky region of a life entirely dedicated to God, notwithstanding his tenderness and compassion.” According to Johnson, we humans must “muddle through” in the best way we know how.
It’s tough to follow the messiah and seek God at all times.
Much of our time, both individually and collectively, is spent trying to avoid being in the wrong spot, finding a way station, or being in an idolatrous location. It was important back then to believe in eternal life. Those are just a bunch of words to us. To be honest, I feel sorry for them.
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Divorce. The term may frequently seem like a smack in the face. People in the church don’t want to talk about divorce, and those who have gone through it in Christian communities don’t often know where to turn for support. The church also appears to be split on what constitutes a valid divorce, when a Christian couple can divorce, and what should happen next when a couple reaches the point of divorce (see below). So, how can we deal with such a challenging subject? How do we love individuals who have suffered divorce inside the church, and what do we do ourselves when we are faced with a decision concerning divorce?
However, the most pressing question we have today is: What does the Bible say about divorce?
The Cause of Divorce
Since the fall of mankind, when Adam and Eve decided to trust and follow the snake rather than God, the Bible teaches us, we have all inherited a sinful nature from our forefathers and mothers. Any wedding pair may attest to their spouse’s wicked character by looking at their own lives. But what about the natures of your and my personalities? The Bible says, “There are no righteous, not even one; there are no understanders, there are no seekers after God; all have gone astray, and collectively, they have become worthless; there are no good deeds, not even one” (Romans 3:10-12NASB).
What God Has Joined Together, Let No Man Separate
God created us as males and females, according to the Book of Genesis, which begins at the beginning of the book. He instructed this first couple, and later all of mankind, to be fruitful, multiply, and populate the planet with their descendants. Man, on the other hand, openly revolted against God in Genesis 6. God expresses regret in Genesis 6:7, saying, “I am sorry that I have created them.” In the New Strong’s Expanded Concordance of the Bible, there are four terms that are defined as “dissolution of marital vows.” The term apostasy is found in the book of Mark as Strong’s 647, which is the Greek word apostasy.
“I’m drafting a petition for divorce.” In the Book of Mark, Jesus mentions the Old Testament and offers more clarification: “However, from the beginning of creation, God created them male and female.” As a result, a man will abandon his father and mother, and the two will become one flesh; as a result, they will no longer be two, but one flesh; they will no longer be two, but one flesh.
What Does the Old Testament Tell Us About Divorce?
We may discover passages on divorce in the books of Leviticus and Deuteronomy, which are taken directly from the law. These are the words that were used: Strong’s number 1644 is the Hebrew wordgarash, which literally translates as “to push out of a property.” to expel a lady from society She was separated from her spouse,” and3748, the Hebrew word kriythuwth, which means to cut, demolish and devour. A blade is used to cut something from something else in order to separate them. In the instance of a cut-off individual, he or she is not slain, but rather expelled from the family and barred from receiving the benefit of the covenant.” A bill of divorce was drafted at this period of time.
After that, she was expelled.
It should be recalled that God founded the husband/wife relationship and, as a result, the family unit before He established the country of Israel or the Church as a whole.
“When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she does not find favor in his eyes because he has discovered some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and places it in her hand and sends her out from his house, and she leaves his house and goes and becomes another man’s wife, and if the latter husband turns against her and writes her a certificate of divorce and places it in her hand and sends her out of his house, or (Deuteronomy 24:1-4NASB).
Marriage is a Covenant Between a Man and a Woman with God as the Witness
As the prophet Malachi described it, a marriage contract is a covenant—a legally binding agreement—with God serving as a witness to it. This prophet informs the people that they have wornied God with their words, and they respond, as do the majority of people today, by asking, “How have we wornied Him?” It was a disappointment to the people when the Israelites returned from captivity in Babylon and reconstructed the temple. Because God had not shown at the new temple in the same way that He had appeared at Solomon’s temple, the people turned their backs on Him.
- Malachi 2:17 is an example of this.
- “’ Another thing you do is cover the altar of the Lord with tears, wailing, and moaning, since He no longer regards the offering or takes it with favor from your hand, as you have done in the past.
- Take note, then, to your soul, and don’t allow anybody to betray your trust by betraying the lady of your childhood.
- As a result, pay attention to your spirit so that you do not deal treacherously” (Malachi 2:13-16NASB).
What Did Jesus Say about Divorce?
Jesus stated on several occasions that He did not come to abolish the law, but rather to fulfill it. However, the Pharisees, like some people today, looked back on their past and either added to or misread what Moses had taught regarding divorce in the first place. In Matthew 19:7, the Pharisees questioned Jesus, “Why, then, did Moses require that a Certificate of Divorce be issued and that she be expelled from the country?” Throughout history, the Rabbis and Pharisees have watered down or misconstrued the laws of Moses and Israel.
They are swiftly rebuked by Jesus: “He answered to them, ‘Because of the hardness of your hearts, Moses enabled you to divorce your wives; nevertheless, this has not been the case from the beginning.'” Whoever divorces his wife for any reason other than immorality and then marries another woman is guilty of adultery, I say to you.” (Matthew 19:8-9, New International Version).
- God, on the other hand, does not care how humans slice, dice, and split hairs.
- They are both found in the New Testament.
- No one should be able to separate what God has already put together (Mark 10:9NASB).
- We are well aware that no part of divorce is simple.
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- Note from the editor: This article provides a basic overview of what the Bible teaches about divorce; it does not purport to provide guidance for individual relationships that have resulted in divorce.
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What Did Jesus Teach about Divorce and Remarriage?
Part of the What Did Jesus Teach? series, this essay explores the teachings of Jesus.
What Jesus Said
However, despite the fact that the Mosaic law had laws for divorce, the Old Testament makes it plain that divorce falls short of God’s ideal (Mal. 2:16). When asked about divorce and remarriage, Jesus took his audience all the way back to the beginning, reminding them that God created humanity as male and female (Gen. 1:27) and stipulated that the man was to leave his father and mother and be united to his wife (Gen. 2:24) in a one-flesh union before God that people were not to break: “So they are no longertwobutoneflesh.” (Matt.
- Accordingly, “what God has joined together, let no man separate” (Matt.
- In their answer, Jesus’ audience makes it apparent that they believed that the Mosaic restrictions had effectively supplanted God’s original objectives at the time of creation.
- 24:1–4), given the religious atmosphere of the day, in their thinking?
- 19:7–8, Mark 10:5; see also Matt.
- Marriage, on the other hand, was designed to be a lifelong, loyal connection between a man and a woman.
The Disciples’ Reaction
The first disciples of Jesus, although acknowledging the lofty standard set by Jesus, believe his viewpoint to be unnecessarily restricted, and say, “If that is the case. it is better not to marry” (Matt. 19:10). When they disagree, Jesus dismisses them and responds that, while a few people may truly be blessed with the gift of celibacy (Matt. 19:11–12), God’s original ideal for marriage continues to hold. The disciples’ response, according to some, demonstrates that Jesus’ standard must have been even stricter than Shammai’s “divorce on the grounds of adultery” view; the disciples’ response, according to others, demonstrates that Jesus advocated a “no divorce once the marriage has been consummated” position; and 1 However, the reasons presented above are somewhat inconclusive, especially given the fact that the disciples’ reactions were undoubtedly impacted by their surroundings and presuppositions.
In common with many of their Jewish contemporaries, Jesus’s followers may have assumed that the standard was a little more lenient—perhaps they even assumed that Jesus’s standard was a little more lenient based on his compassionate treatment of the adulterous woman mentioned in John 7:53–8:11—and as a result, they may have reacted negatively to Jesus’s severe-sounding pronouncement.
As a result, the fact that Jesus’ criteria for divorce was higher even than that of the conservative school of Shammai may be a sufficient explanation for the disciples’ shocked reaction to Jesus’ teaching in Matthew 19.
The “Exception Clause”
Much debate has concentrated on the one ostensible exemption offered by Jesus, according to which divorce may be acceptable in certain circumstances. Divorce is illegitimate “save in cases of marital infidelity” (NIV1984) or “sexual immorality” (NIV1989), according to this exemption, which is referenced in both Matthew 5:32 and Matthew 19:9. (ESV; ISV; NKJV; HCSB; TNIV; NIV). Due to the fact that the similar passages in Mark 10:11–12 and Luke 16:18 do not mention the exception, some have speculated that Jesus never truly stated the exception and that Matthew (or someone else) inserted it at a later point in the narrative.
Some of those who believe that Jesus did indeed utter the exception clause attempt to bring the Matthean exception clause into conformity with the absolute statements in Mark, Luke, and Paul by arguing that those passages, rather than Matthew, should be the ultimate point of reference in the interpretation of the gospel of Matthew.
The episode reported in Matthew 19:3–12 gets its starting point from the Pharisees’ query, “Is it permissible to divorce one’s wife for any reason?” The incident is recorded in Matthew 19:3–12.
19:3; see also Matthew 5:31).
According to Matthew 19:3 (and Mark 10:2), the religious leaders were attempting to force Jesus into a choice between competing theological schools while also placing Jesus in danger with Herod Antipas, much as John the Baptist had suffered for his denunciation of Herod’s illicit union with Herodias, his brother Philip’s wife (see Matt.
- 11:2–3; Matthew 14:3–4; Mark 6:14–29).
- As a result, the Pharisees’ inquiry calls into play the differing viewpoints held by the various rabbinic schools in Jesus’ day, as previously established.
- Without a doubt, Jesus’ position was far more stringent than that promoted by the Hillel school of thought, which maintained that divorce was acceptable “for any reason” (see Matt.
- On the surface, Jesus’ stance appears to be much more similar to that of the school of Shammai, which held that genuine divorce (with the potential of remarriage) could only be granted in cases of marital infidelity.
- 5 Furthermore, in a very significant way, Jesus’ response transcends the legalistic squabbles between those two rabbinic schools and gets right to the core of the problem in which they were engaged.
- 24:1–4) to an earlier set of passages (Gen.
- 2:24), and thus relativizes the (chronologically later) reference as merely a concession that in no way mitigates the abiding principle established by the foundational texts.
- Apart from emphasizing marriage’s permanence as a divine rather than just human institution, he also argues that divorce is fundamentally at conflict with God’s purpose for creating the world in the first place.
- Despite regulations in the Mosaic law that stipulated equal treatment of men and women in regard to divorce (Lev.
- However, under Jesus’ teachings, the rights of husband and wife were placed on an equal basis.
As a result, Jesus taught that the desire for other women that exists in a man’s heart constitutes adultery (Matt. 5:28), which means that extramarital encounters are equally immoral for both men and women. 6
In light of the foregoing explanation, it becomes clear that the meaning of the termporneia, which is the fundamental phrase in Jesus’ “exception clause,” is the most important subject to consider when attempting to comprehend Jesus’ teaching on divorce and remarriage. Although there is no general agreement among Bible-believing Christians on the actual meaning of the Greek word porneia, the many interpretations advanced by scholars may be simply classified into one of three contending viewpoints.
The second view understands sporneia to be a reference to adultery or sexual immorality and advocates for the biblical legitimacy of divorce and remarriage for the innocent The second interpretation understandssporneia to be a reference to some form of sexual offense, such as adultery, but maintains that while Jesus permitted divorce on the grounds of sexual sin, he did not condone remarriage (thus the phrase “divorce, but no remarriage”).
In a third interpretation of the exception clause, neither divorce nor remarriage are permitted in the present context (“neither divorce nor remarriage”).
Note that there are several subtleties and variations within each of the three positions discussed above, and that this is true for all three viewpoints discussed above.
As an alternative to advocating for a specific point of view in response to the ideas expressed above, we would like to provide certain guidelines for forming one’s own perspective on Jesus’ teachings on divorce and remarriage. First and first, it is necessary to clarify that the termporneiais used to refer to any form of sexual vice. The precise meaning ofporneiais always determined by the context in which the word is used; yet, the termporneiaalways refers to sexual immorality in its most general sense.
Second, given the divine design of the institution of marriage, the teaching of the Old Testament on divorce and remarriage, and the unambiguous portions of Jesus’ teaching on the subject, whatever one’s view of the “exception clause” on the subject may be, it must encourage the sacredness of the marriage bond, regardless of one’s point of view on the issue.
Because divorce and remarriage are so prevalent in contemporary culture, believers should exercise special caution in ensuring that their respective views are shaped by the biblical text, striving to avoid common errors such as conflating stringency with holiness or permissiveness with grace, among others.
Furthermore, in light of the divisions that exist among orthodox Christians on this issue, we encourage everyone to maintain their views on divorce and remarriage with charity and conviction, while being open to honest discourse with those who hold opposing views. Notes:
- 35. See Daniel I. Block’s chapter on marriage and family in biblical times, published as part of the edited volume Marriage and Family in the Biblical World (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 2003), which includes the following quotations: “Marriage and family in ancient Israel.” This work serves as a foundation for the discussion that follows. Ibid., 41
- Ibid., 47
- Ibid., 53–55
- Ibid., 66–68
- Ibid., 77–78
Marriage and Family: Biblical Essentials is written by Andreas Köstenberger and David W. Jones, who are also co-authors of the book. David W. Jones is a professor of Christian ethics at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary, as well as the director of the ThM program and the assistant dean for graduate program management at the seminary. Also a prolific writer, Jones is the author of more than a dozen articles that have been published in a variety of academic journals, and she is a frequent guest speaker at Christian events such as churches, ministries, and conferences.
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What Does the Bible Say About Divorce? When Is It Allowed?
Many people in our society now believe that divorce is a great answer to a dysfunctional marriage. However, Harvard sociologist Armand Nicholi III came to the conclusion that “divorce is not a solution, but rather an exchange of issues.” According to author Pat Conroy, who experienced a divorce in his own marriage, “Each divorce is the death of a tiny civilization.” “Our divorce has been the most horrible, horrifying, ulcer-producing, torturous thing you can imagine,” one lady wrote after her divorce.
I wish I could draw a picture of what it feels like to be divorced and put it on this piece of paper for everyone to see.
Marriage is a covenant
Therefore, it should not be surprised when God proclaims in Malachi 2:16 that “I despise divorce!” And why does He despise divorce so much? One explanation is that marriage is intended to be a unique bond between a man and a woman, as well as between them and their God. I married Barbara in a civil ceremony that went something like this: “I, Dennis, take you, Barbara, to be my lawfully wedded wife.” For the rest of my life, before God and these witnesses, I swear to be your loving and devoted spouse; to be by your side in prosperity and adversity, pleasure and sorrow, illness and health, abandoning all others in order to remain by your side for the rest of my life.” In saying these words, Barbara and I were not committing to give certain personal services under the terms of a contract that might be cancelled if one of us failed to meet our obligations.
It was actually acovenant that we were engaging into, which was the same sort of holy responsibility that God had established with His children on various significant times, such as with Noah after the deluge.
“It is a trap for a man to devote something rashly and then afterwards to examine his pledges,” according to Proverbs 20:25.
“You should be cautious to carry out what comes out of your mouth, just as you have deliberately sworn to the Lord your God what you have promised,” reads Deuteronomy 23:23.
“Every careless word that men shall utter, they shall give an account for it on the day of judgment,” Jesus remarked in the Gospel of Matthew (Matthew 12:36). When we fail to take the marital commitment seriously, God does so nonetheless.
God’s purposes for marriage
One of the major reasons God despises divorce is that it strikes at the very heart of God’s redemptive goal for the entire human race. It’s worth noting the exchange between Jesus and the Pharisees in Matthew 19:3-9, which is rather intriguing. When the Pharisees inquire, “Is it legal for a man to divorce his wife for any reason at all?” Jesus responds affirmatively. Then Jesus responds by directing them to God’s intentions for marriage, which are as follows: “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning formed them male and female, and that He stated, ‘For this reason, a man shall leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?” He responded.
Because of this, whatsoever God has brought together, let no man separate.”
Purpose1: To mirror His image.
Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to our likeness; and let them rule over the fish of the sea, and over the birds of the sky, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” Then God created the earth and the animals, and then He said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness.” “And God created man in His own image, in the image of God He made him; male and female He created them,” the text continues (Genesis 1:26-27).
What does it mean to be made in the image of God?
It should be possible for those who are unfamiliar with God’s character to look at us and catch a glimpse of Him because we were formed in His image.
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Purpose2: tocomplete each other and experience companionship.
“It is not right for the man to be alone,” God declared, “so I will provide him with a helper who is appropriate for him” (Genesis 2:18).
Purpose3: to multiply a godly legacy.
God’s original design for the home was for it to function as a kind of greenhouse, a nurturing environment where children might develop character, values, and integrity as they grew up. “These words, which I am instructing you today, must be on your heart,” Deuteronomy 6:6-7 reminds us. You are to teach them to your sons with diligence, and you are to speak of them while you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise.” Marriage is significantly more vital than the majority of us understand or acknowledge.
He despises divorce for this reason.
The “exception clauses”
At this point, if I could put an end to this debate about what the Bible says about divorce, it would make the lives of many pastors all throughout the country a whole lot simpler. However, the Bible also discusses what some refer to as the “exception clauses” for divorce. Earlier, I quoted from Matthew 19, which contains the dispute between Christ and the Pharisees. The question is posed to Jesus after he speaks of God’s original intentions for marriage: “Why, then, did Moses instruct that she be given a decree of divorce and be sent away?” “Because of your hardness of heart, Moses authorized you to divorce your spouses; but, this has not been the case from the beginning,” Jesus responds.
The Bible informs us in 1 Corinthians 7:15-17 that if the unbelieving one goes, he should leave; the brother or sister is not under bondage in such instances, but God has called us to live in harmony with one another.
For that matter, how do you know, O husband, whether or not you will be able to save your wife? Only in the method in which the Lord has allotted each one, in the manner in which God has called each one, should he go. As a result, I am in charge of all the churches.
Man created divorce
Whichever way you choose to read these scriptures, one thing is certain: God never ordained or established the institution of marriage. Man was the one who accomplished it. The majority of conservative evangelicals believe that these verses suggest that God can release a couple from the lifetime commitment that they have made in marriage under a few specific conditions.
- Specifically, in the event of persistent and unrepentant wickedness
- When an unbelieving spouse abandons a believing spouse
Most pastors and Christian leaders will condemn divorce even in these instances, but they will eventually not discourage it if all other choices have been explored and explored thoroughly. This is the position taken by the organization FamilyLife. The evangelical Christian view, which is in the minority, maintains that the sole exemption to the divorce prohibition is death. “Because of your hardness of heart Moses authorized you to divorce your wives; yet, from the beginning it has not been this way,” Jesus tells the Pharisees in Matthew 19:8, a crucial line in the book.
“Do not make any demands to be freed.” Clearly, this is a tough and contentious matter, one that has sparked a great deal of discussion.
The reasons given include inadequate communication, incompatibility, financial difficulties, a lack of commitment to the relationship, and a shift in one’s own priorities.
If you are considering divorce
Throughout my years of service, I’ve heard story after story of couples who have made the decision to put their confidence in God for a reconciliation. While many couples have found themselves on the edge of getting a divorce — sometimes for reasons that we could deem biblical – they have chosen to allow God to work in their relationship. Our culture, which promotes fulfilling human demands at whatever cost (in order to enjoy pleasure and avoid sorrow), I believe we must encourage Christians to be open to believing that God’s purpose for their marriage will come to fruition in order to be effective.
- Furthermore, just a small percentage of couples who are considering divorce have exhausted all options to save their marriage.
- And you’re quite correct; I don’t.
- First and foremost, you’ll need someone who is willing and able to accompany you on your stroll at this time.
- I feel that, if at all possible, your pastor is the most qualified individual to carry out this task.
- Second, you require the support of the local church of Jesus Christ.
- Every part of the body is dependent on the other.
- Your loved ones’ affection, encouragement, and sound advice are essential.
- You should also seek God in His Word and pray to Him for guidance on what you should do and how you should respond to your spouse in order to understand His methods and His heart for you.
If you’re seeking for ways to justify your reasons for divorcing your spouse. reduce speed or halt completely. Take note of how much space in the Bible is devoted to God’s teachings of forgiveness, reconciliation, peace, understanding, and patience, among other things.
Wait for God to work
When you stand before your God, how much importance will you place on the promises that you made to your spouse in front of his or her face? Think about it: when you consider how highly God regards a covenant, what are the requirements of your marital commitment in God’s eyes? Will you be willing to be patient and wait for God to work in your marriage in a way that you have not anticipated? Will you put your trust in Him to provide you with the insight, the resources, and the encouragement you require to go above and beyond what you could have imagined or thought possible?
- Keep in mind that God is a specialist in redeeming the unredeemable.
- Last but not least, I’d want to encourage you to begin topraying together for 30 days as a couple in the hopes that God may heal your marriage?
- Inquire of Him for a miracle.
- You will never be sorry that you prayed and then came to us for a life-altering weekend with us!
Bible Gateway passage: Matthew 19 – New International Version
The following day, after Jesus had completed speaking these things, B) “>(B)he left Galilee and crossed the Jordan River into the Judean region on the opposite side of the river. large groups of people followed him, and he treated them C)”>(C)there. 3A group of Pharisees approached him and put him to the test. They inquired, “Is it legal for a man to divorce his wife D) Is it legal for a man to divorce his wife?” “>(D)for any and all of the reasons?” 4″Haven’t you read,” he said, “that in the beginning, the Creator’made them male and female,’E)” he continued “and stated, “As a result, a man will leave his father and mother and will be wedded to his wife, and the two will become one flesh”?
For this reason, no one should separate what God has brought together.” They inquired as to why Moses instructed a man to give his wife an official document of divorce and to send her away.
Jesus responded, “Moses granted you permission to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard.
Nineteenth, I tell you that anybody who divorces his wife, even in the case of sexual immorality, and marries another woman is guilty of adultery.” “‘If this is the condition between a husband and wife, it is preferable not to marry,’ the disciples advised him.
“The one who is capable of accepting this should accept it.”
The Little Children and Jesus J)”>(J)
People then brought little infants to Jesus, so that he may lay his hands on them and pray for them, according to Matthew 13:13. The disciples, on the other hand, scolded them. 14Jesus added, “Let the small children come to me, and do not impede them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to L)”>(L)those who are like this.” ” M)”> ” M)”> ” M)”> (M) 15After he had placed his hands on them, he proceeded to the next stage.
The Rich and the Kingdom of God N)”>(N)
A man approached Jesus at that point and said, “Teacher, what good act must I do in order to get eternal life O)?” “(O) What do you mean? “P)” is an abbreviation for “Positive.” “> The following is an example of a formalized formalized formalized (P) “Why should you inquire as to what is good?” says the narrator. Jesus responded in the affirmative. “There is only One who is good,” says the author. Keep the commandments if you wish to be accepted into life.” Q) “> The following is an example of a formalized formalized formalized (Q) 18″Can you tell me which ones?” he queried.
“Can you tell me what I still lack?” Twenty-oneJesus responded,”If you want to be perfect, U)”>(U)go, sell your belongings, and give the proceeds to the poor, V)”>(V), and you will have treasure in heaven.
“>(W)Then come on over here and follow me.” 22When the young guy heard this, he was depressed since he possessed much fortune.
a camel may easily pass through the eye of a needle, but it is more difficult for someone who is wealthy to enter the kingdom of God,” Jesus says again.
Z) Z) Z) Z) Z) Z) Z) Z) Z) “>(Z)What will be the consequences for us?” When Jesus told them this, he replied, “Truly I tell you, at the rebirth of all things, when the Son of Man sits on his magnificent throne, you will see me.” AA) (Academic Achievement) (Academic Achievement) (Academic Achievement) “The twelve tribes of Israel will be judged by the twelve thrones that will be placed before you as a reward for your obedience to me.
AB) AB) AB) AB) AB) “Everyone who has given up their homes, brothers and sisters, father and mother or wife or children or fields for my cause will get a hundred times as much as they gave up, and they will inherit eternal life.
>(AB)29 (Acknowledgement of Contribution) “>(AC)30However, many of those who are first will be last, and many of those who are last will be first. AD)”>(AD)